We have been married for eight months now. We are facing serious problem in our sexual life during the time of intercourse. We have not yet had complete intercourse due to the following reasons.My wife finds it extreemly painful during the act and there is no lubrication from her side even after a good Forepaly. However, she has had lubrication for a couple of times only.After the initial pleasure of foreplay, even insertion of a finger creates lots of pain. For lubrication we have even used KY Jelly and coconut oil. Since the act is extreemly painful for my wife there is lots of obstruction due to which my errection is lost midway. Because of these reasons we have still not been able to achieve complete insertion and we both are really worried about this. We usually get very good feeling during the time of foreplay but when it reaches to insertion all our mood is gone because of the failure in intercourse.
We used condoms in the earlier means very soon after our marriage. After that we stop tousing of that because we think its helps only after getting proper intercourse.
This is very common to most of Keralite new couples. Its all because of the girl’s afraid to intercourse. Make her understand about sex. The muscles near the vagina are being kept tight by your wife (without her knowledge, but by her inner sense). It will be normal after some time. Keep on trying, the pain will be gone after some time and do not do more than one intercourse with her at begining, it will be more painful for her. Lubricants will help for insertion. Don’t worry.
